by meg52 on December 11, 2016 - 7:37pm
December 2, 2016
Blog Research 2 Draft
Any parent of any child would hope that their child would be safe when they begin to date. Sometimes parents even take into account their child’s dates’ parents. Parents ask questions and make their most accurate assumption about the person their child begins to date. However, whether people believe it or not teen dating violence does happen, and more frequently than parents know. In the Oxford University Press there was a study done to show that children are being taken advantage of, when dating. In this study 135 girls and 121 boys in a Sacramento district school were given a multiple choice questionnaire to fill out during an open period in school. The survey was done to get actual numbers from a diverse group of kids and take a poll on how many kids experience some type of violence during their dating experience. It stated, “35.5% of the students that were sample experienced some kind of violence while dating… 15% of the students were punched” (O’keefe, 467). These are staggering numbers to anyone, especially parents. Another aspect is the psychological aspect of the child when they do experience such violence. “Ongoing violence in one’s intimate relationship undoubtedly self-esteem. For teenagers whose self-esteem and worth are developing, the introduction to violence into romantic relationships can be psychologically crippling” (O’keefe 468). Many times the scarring on someone's memory has a lasting effect on the way individuals experience future relationships. The solution to this issue, however, does not solely stands on the parents raising the children at the moment. Many people can not only relate to dating violence but have experienced it themselves as teens. With this, people can relate to one another but also understand others as well. Many of the scars do not heal after the trauma. However, future positive relationships can encourage the person to trust again. Friends play in the role of healing wounds and stepping in to stop some of the dating violence that has occurred amongst teens. The study found a very interesting point stating, “... 50 percent of the students who had not personally experienced violence knew about someone it” (O’Keefe 467). This shows that a child’s friend can also be a great way to make violence in teen dating stop by not being a bystander. The more these teens come clean about the violence they are witnessing the more parents and other authority figures can protect and prevent incidents earlier and more frequently. All in all, the problem does not start and end with the parents. For there to be a change, everyone needs to do their part. Anyone and everyone can be a victim as a teen while dating because of immaturity and heightened emotions however, there are ways to prevent self-esteem issues, scarring in future relationships, and trauma. People have to be willing and able to understand one another, friends have to discourage by standing, and authority figures should continue to learn and grow on the subject.